Tuesday, June 24, 2014

It's June which = high Wedding Season....#busybusybusy!

Holy cow, this is one of busiest years Lip Service has ever had!  I'm barely 6  months into the year and I've already completed over 30 weddings, 9 photo shoots, plus tons of quicker jobs like boudoir shoots, trial runs, bridals.  I'm having a BLAST...my clients rock!  A bridesmaid just asked me if I ever have bridezillas and the answer is truly..no, I don't.  My brides are all super sweet girls....I'm super lucky....man, did I just jinx myself?!?!  Hopefully not!  Haven't had much time to write and post, just wanted to check in and say hey....I'll write more when things slow down a bit in July.  I'm waiting on wedding pics from a ton of spring weddings, hoping many of them will arrive soon so I can post for you!

 It's been a blur of venue open houses, weddings, a surprise prom, charity events, lessons, bridals and even a big group of adorable girls for an 8th grade dance....so many super fun things I can't wait to share. In the meanwhile, just a handful of pics from what I've been up to:

Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Just say THANK YOU already!

Sorry I haven't been posting much, it's June!  Eight weddings...2 down, 6 to go and then things slow down a bit for July/August.  So, nothing fancy today, just some thoughts on why it's so hard for women to accept compliments.  I do makeup on an average of 50 faces each month...sometimes more, sometimes less, but average of 50.  I see beauty in each person in my chair, but often, the subject doesn't.  I mean, really doesn't!  I'll say "wow, you've got such great cheekbones" and their response is "well, my nose is way too big and my eyes are super small".  Usually, the descriptors they give aren't accurate at all.  A recent client told me that she hated her really small lips.  They weren't small at all!  They were normal to a bit on the full side, but somehow she got it into her head that they're small....and that that's a flaw.  Why do we as women do this to ourselves?!?! We pick pick pick....this isn't big enough, this is too big, I look old, I'm too pale, I'm not pretty.  I say ENOUGH!

Change what you say in your head...now.  If you catch yourself thinking "I can't wear that, I'm too fat", or "I'm not as pretty as her".  Just stop....find something, anything about yourself you like and think about that instead.  Your shiny hair, your great smile, your toned legs....whatever you like about your face and body.  (There's a whole 'nother side to this....with inner beauty, but that's a much longer discussion, so for now, let's focus on what you can visually see!!!  It all ties in.....)

I've always said PEOPLE SEE WHAT YOU SHOW THEM.  If you believe you're beautiful, people will see that.  If you think you're sub-standard and pick yourself apart, you invite others to do the same.  I have plenty of things I don't like about my appearance, but generally, you won't hear me talking about them much.  Why?  Simple...if I don't point it out to you, maybe you'll never notice!  Suppose someone thinks they have a big nose.   If they constantly say "oh, my big nose...Oh, I hate my nose...gosh, can you use makeup to diminish this nose!"  Guess what?  People around you who thought your nose was perfectly fine are now focused on....your nose.  You're telling them it's big, so they're looking at it thinking....wow, it's really pretty big, hadn't noticed until she kept talking about it.  Hmmm...how did that work out for ya?  Not so great.

I knew a girl years ago who did this routinely, and couldn't see what a problem it was.  I remember one time, we were all at an fun event...she was single and looking too mingle, there were plenty of nice guys there.  She's cute, smart, great job....had everything she needed to land a guy.  So what was the problem?  All night...to anyone who would listen she would say "oh, I hate my arms...they're so fat.  It'd be ok if I weren't so short.  Don't look at my stomach, I'm trying to lose weight" and on and on.  (None of it was true, incidentally...she was indeed short and petite, but not at all fat...but, that doesn't change the point.).  Guys who started flirting and complimenting her were treated to "well thanks for that, but this thing (arms, stomach, height) really isn't great and I'm not happy about it". One by one, the guys who had started flirting with her initially wandered off and started ignoring her.  She thought  it was because of these "flaws", but it really wasn't. It was because her words and behavior shouted "I'm FLAWED!  I DON'T THINK MUCH OF MYSELF!  IF YOU THINK I'M ATTRACTIVE, YOU MUST BE NUTS!"  Any normal dude is going to be turned off, and they were.  Guys want a woman who is confident with whatever she's got, plain and simple.  Maybe you're his type, maybe not...but confidence trumps good looks all the time.  That girl and I drifted apart over the years... I wonder if she ever "got" it and stopped sabotaging herself...I may never know.

Are YOU sabotaging yourself?  The next time you start to tear yourself apart....out loud to others or internally....just STOP.  Even better?  When your makeup artist tells you how lovely your almond shaped eyes are, your husband compliments your haircut or a friend says how great you look in that outfit....just say THANK YOU. That's it, no qualifier...no, thank you BUT this that or the other. Just THANK YOU...with a big smile.  When you notice lovely things about others, return the favor and pass out compliments that are simple and sincere....spread the feel good factor. If we all do this, maybe we as women can start to change this global bad habit we all seem to have.  I know you can do it!!! 

Is this an issue that YOU struggle with? Share  your comments below.....

Monday, June 2, 2014

Evercolor Shadow Stick by Mally Beauty - 5 Second Review

Had to share....honestly, I've had such great luck with most of the new products in my kit this year!  This one, um...not so much.  I love Mally Roncal...supremely sassy makeup artist to several celebrities.  She talented, fun and beautiful so I really wanted to like her new line of makeup products.  I picked up her EverColor Shadow Stick at Ulta the other day.  In the store, I loved the champagne shimmer shade and was intrigued by easy application so I thought I'd give it a try.

I swatched it out on the back of my hand at the store and it looked like this:

So, the next morning, I did a simple champagne eye, blended it out, added a little black liner and was out the door.  It was super easy to apply and blend and looked great.....at first.  This product totally changed!!!  Within about an hour, my eyelids felt really dry and cakey and I have oily skin and (typically) oily eyelids, so for them to feel dry?  Holy cow.  Also, the pretty shimmer had changed to SPARKLE, as in glitter sparkle.  Remember the old school Mary Kate and Ashley cosmetics for girls and pre-teens way back in the day?  Like that.  The kind of glitter that is too much for daytime and unflattering for a woman in her 40s....if you've ever taken a lesson or class from me, you've seen me demonstrate the difference!  The subtle champagne "shimmer" turned chunky, turned to a yellow-ish gold, started flaking off and just looked terrible.  I wish I'd taken a photo of my eyes to show you, but I honestly couldn't wait to take it off.  Mally touts her products as "bulletproof", meaning they won't budge....but that's only a good thing if the product actually looks flattering and this didn't.  I may try something else from her line just to see, but although I loved the idea of a crème stick, this one just didn't work for me.  At $25 (cheaper on Amazon) which I think is pretty high for a cream shadow anyway, this will definitely be returned.

And on to the next product!  Still love ya Mally!